Wednesday, January 18, 2017

12/11/2016


A wondrous woman I have found
Her personality sends love abound
To hear my name, is quite the sound
To know her heart is my aim
Time with her is never the same
We're going higher like a plane
She's unafraid to talk and go deep
She possesses qualities most try to keep
She's serves so well, as if she's a host
And even more I like to boast,
For I know she's filled with the Holy Ghost

Thoughtful, kind, sweet, cheerful,
caring, encouraging, and delightful
are a few words that describe you.
You think of me when you make decisions,
As if I never left your vision
An open book is what you are,
Meaningful conversations are never too far
O, how I want to spend out nights,
Laying alone searching for a shooting star
Or talking for hours on a trip in a car!

You treat me so well, anyone can tell
I desire to know you on a whole new level,
To serve our God and worship together
Brings us close and out of the weather
Being with you is always better
Laughing and smiles make it the best
To know your soul is my quest

Spoken Word - My Story



I said I'd do it without you
And I told you I couldn’t follow you
My dream was to become a man
You weren’t a part of the game plan
I said the ones who do, were weak
And I had no business being meek
Because I can't lead when I follow
But you said what's the point of leading when you're hollow?
And you humbled me
I learned it's harder to bow a knee,
than to be a man according to society
You were calling me.

I believed in the pursuit money
Two jobs at fifteen, that ain't funny
I thought the green would bring the honeys
the friends and the missing security
You were calling me but I was focused on my dream
You said I couldn't serve two masters.
And it was true, I was devoted to money and hated you.
You were calling me.

I lived a life that was photo shopped like a picture.
I was fake, and this isn't by mistake.
Man was tricked by a snake and I did things you hate.  
Jesus died so that I may have life and you gave me a clean slate
You told me I was bought with a price.
If I want to be a man of God then I better act like it.
You said I was just a boy who shaves.
And to give up my childish ways
You were calling me.

My whole life I surrounded myself with people just as lost as me.
I believed the parties, the alcohol, the sex, were my destiny.  
But you told me I was chosen, I didn't have to search.
The things of this world do not surpass your worth
You pushed me to church and showed me there was another life,
another path I could take.
I finally gave in, I wanted Jesus to rescue me. You adopted me.
You Justified me.

It's hard to be a Christian, you hold me to a standard
One that most choose to ignore, but still claim the title
My whole life I dealt with anger, it stayed on idle.
This world said if I wanted success, it was vital.
It was at that church retreat you called me out and pointed to the truth.
I had been wrong ever since my youth,
I was a prideful man and didn't lean on you.
You sanctify me.

God, I thank you for the path you set for me.
I thank you for the eternal life I receive for free
through Jesus Christ my Lord, who is the key
to the love you send down to those who now see
as it is written, "the righteous shall live by faith."
I'll trust in you to make my path straight.
I know it's never too late to come to you Father.
You guide me.

You gave me a desire for adventure,  
a wild hair that I thought was for my own venture.
But you've showed me that you will use that to further your kingdom.
We were made in your image, and we shall be like Him,
that's Jesus Christ y'all
Lord, in you I find my courage.
I pray, you don't allow me to go astray.
This life I dedicate to you,
I don't want to waste my life away. 

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The first time I remember my dad getting mad at me he called me a "son of a bitch" after I was being a sore loser from a board game. I was somewhere below 3rd grade. I still remember his face and his pointer finger extended out at me.
On the outside, I was just like any other kid growing up. Generic. I played sports, video games, hung out with friends and was generally interested in young boy things. But I was also different. I think a large amount of that was my desire for adventure. That desire always lead me to getting into trouble and being punished by my Dad all the time. Sounds like any other kid right? But the way I believed I was being treated sent me down the wrong path. I truly believe I created a demented world and I believed I was the only one apart of it. I have never met someone like me. You know how people say they are just like their best friend? Yeah I've never had that. I've wanted that, but I haven't met another man like me. Sometimes I like that. But sometimes I hate it. There's a lot of experiences that have influenced my worldview. For example, my Dad has always been really hard on me so I tend to be really hard on other people. It made relationships difficult because I demanded so much from others; all because I felt like I was doing the same for them. It made me lose hope in other people so I felt like I was alone in this world.
Anyways back to my story. I grew up in a house that went to a Methodist church and attended a Sunday school before worship. We did what a lot of people do at church; go through the motions. I say that because the only times I heard the Word being taught was at church. I was baptized as an infant and later went through confirmation. I attended the same church from the age of six until I left for college. My parents still go to that church.
I remember my dad talking to me about God a few times. The earliest I can remember was a time when I was upset because I wanted to play with friends and my dad started counting on his fingers. He said God comes first, then family, then school, and then friends. Besides that time, the only times my parents talked to me about God was when I was in trouble or it was a Christian holiday. I spent my childhood going through the church motions and saw a lot of lukewarm Christians claim the role but not act the part. There was never a strong spirituality in my life so I learned to believe in what I wanted to believe.
I decided at a young age that I am given one life on this earth and my time here should be filled with every experience this world has to offer. I was everything worldly. Eighth grade was the first time I smoked pot. I squared up with a few kids and dropped them bare knuckle boxing. I wanted to be a bad boy. By this time I was hanging out with the wrong crowd. We were doing all the things that would make us feel like we weren't just middle school kids. This is also when the stealing began. I was the biggest daredevil when it came to stealing. We would go into the 7-11 down the street and see who could steal the most stuff. We mainly did it to show off to friends and for the adrenaline rush. I was eventually busted for smoking pot because my friends were caught. I lied until I couldn’t lie anymore. My parents eventually got everything out of me. It took my dad spanking me and throwing me around to do it though. It was the first time he made me bleed. I hated him for it but it was in good intentions. I never got anything I didn't deserve, but I know there were better ways to handle things like that; I was 14-15 years old. I remember going into my room that night and laying in bed and crying to myself.  I remember thinking to myself "no one loves me" and I believed it. Immediately, I felt something come over me that I can't quite explain. It felt like a cold breeze had passed my body causing me to feel tingly and I knew it was God. I knew he was saying "I love you". That is one of the earliest times I knew God was real. But I was so wrapped up in my ways that I didn't give him a chance. I was chasing the bad boy image and I didn't have room for God.
My parents found the stash of gum I had stolen and made me return it to the man I stole from and he chewed me out. That was justice. Right before the stealing and the drugs blew up, I burned down a city trashcan with my best friend and we got 6 months probation for it. So I was on probation and grounded for what seemed like forever. I entered high school with no real friends since I couldn't hang out with my old ones.
Ninth grade was a lost year. I didn't really do anything in my life. My grades sucked and that was about it. I did get in another fight that year. I fought a kid because he thought he could beat me up. So I challenged him to a fight and he came to school the next day with 22 stitches and a fat upper lip. I loved it. On top of that the recession hit when I was in high school and my dad lost his job. Long story short, things were tense throughout high school. When I was in ninth grade my dad made me get a job. The first job didn’t give me 40 hours so I had to get a second. The next thing I knew I was working 55 hour weeks and none of my friends had jobs. I got jealous of their time off and did the whole "why me God" gig. I was also really lonely. I had terrible relationships with my parents and my brother. I felt as if I had nowhere to go for a safe haven. I was so focused on this world that instead of searching God out to comfort me, I blamed him for my position.
In tenth grade the fighter reputation started to take hold and I welcomed it. I had no fear because I thought I was invincible. I felt like there was nothing else I could lose. I beat up two more kids that year and it elevated my popularity. I used the beating of other human beings to elevate my own status. I started to get into drugs and partying again and it was fun for awhile. I felt like I was making new friends but eventually it all came crashing down again. My parents found out and I was put on lockdown again. My dad and I got into it again and it was rough. I can't remember any good conversations in my high school years with my dad. I am sure there were some good conversations, but the bad always outweighs the good. I was also a very angry individual my whole life. Satan definitely chooses to use anger to cause me to sin. So whenever I did get in these fights with my dad, I would always blow up and make everything ten times worse.
In tenth grade, I met a girl and began to like her. She and I acted like boyfriend and girlfriend but we weren't official and it was because I had commitment issues. She "cheated" on me with another guy and it hurt, but it didn’t hurt as much as my jealousy of the other guy. I actually got mad at him instead. It also made me have even worse commitment issues. And I could see it in my future relationships. So I ended tenth grade just like eighth grade. No friend real friends and being grounded.
This is the period of my life where I made some more decisions. I was working at a Taco Bueno, the economy was in the gutter, I felt like I had no friends, and I believed in my heart God was not there for me. I made a decision that I would fix all of these problems by getting good grades, going to college and landing a good job and make a lot of money. Then I would be happy. So that's what I did. I turned my C's into A's and I started grinding. I changed the group of friends I had and started hanging out with good kids (in part because I was tired of getting ripped off by the bad kids). Neither group of friends knew Christ. This was my junior year. A step in the positive.
Senior year started out same old same old. I was on the football team but I never played. Boy is that humbling, not being a starter on the high school football team. Conveniently, the starters are also the coolest kids in school. Jealousy was rampant and I asked God why he made nothing about me stand out to others. Besides blaming God for my problems, I was making good grades and was accepted to Texas Tech; I had bigger things I was focused on. I got a girlfriend and at this point in my life I was still feeling really lonely. I used to lay in bed begging God to give me a girl, just because I wanted to be loved by somebody. So when I got this girl, I felt blessed.
Now I am usually a very stubborn man. And when I have my mind set on something, I don't change it. But when you are with a woman, your mind can be changed very easily. I remember we were laying on my couch and I asked her if she wanted to remain a virgin until she was married. And she told me no, she didn’t plan on it. And it hit me hard. I don't consider myself to have ever walked with God at this point in my life, but for some reason I wanted to wait until I was married to have sex. In these types of situations I would always consider two options. What the world told me and what I believed in my heart. I chose to do what the world told me to do most of the time. I was trying to be the bad boy.
I ended up losing my virginity to her. I tried justifying it. I argued with myself that I was going to college and would be sleeping with many girls because that's what you do in college! Well, that's what I believed. I broke up with her before college just like we agreed to when we started going out. I acted as if I had no soul.
I joined a fraternity when I went to Texas Tech. I was in Delta Tau Delta, a top fraternity that was not mild in any category. Everything you could imagine happened there. I remember during pledgeship, as I was getting hazed, I was so thankful for being there. I felt like my pledge trainers were my father. I don't know why, I guess it's because I wanted their approval and to get in the fraternity. So when they held me accountable and tried to teach me how to be a man, I listened. In college I was a super outgoing guy and the reason I became so outgoing is because I worked at it. I forced myself to look people in the eye, I practiced speaking and presenting myself. I talked to myself in the mirror. I was still searching for acceptance. I still wanted to be a part of something bigger than myself. I was still lonely.
College was no better than high school. I switched from breaking all the rules and fighting to partying and sinning sexually. I had girlfriends but I had so much baggage from my past that it always came to the surface and was a large part in the failure of those relationships. I only sought God out during the hard times and was never thankful when he blessed me. I still believed I was going to make myself happy by chasing what I wanted.
In the summer after my sophomore year I was hired to work for Halliburton, an oil and gas service company, in the oil field. That meant long hours in the middle of nowhere on frac jobs. I had a girlfriend but it was only being held together because we were afraid to be alone. I picked up a book, "The Man in the Mirror" and read it that summer. And the verses used in the book really helped slip the thought of God into my life. When I got back to college, My girlfriend and I broke up and I was partly devastated and partly relieved. So it did not affect me too much, but I did one thing to get over it. I got drunk every weekend. Between partying on the weekends and studying during the week, I knew there was "something" missing and I knew what I was doing would not fulfill it. I remember coming home from a finance exam and just breaking down. I realized how amazing grace was and was so joyful. All I could do was just sit in my room and cry. I knew what that "something" was.
The hardest thing about changing your ways is the changes you have to make and the fear that changing your ways means you'll be missing out on something. My life, my friends, and what my friends did on the weekends was surrounded by sin and I couldn't get away from it. So time and time again I felt myself getting sucked back into the same sin natures. Chasing what my flesh desired.
In the last two months of my junior year I got a new girlfriend. We acted like we were married the night we met. Nothing in me changed. We became a couple and I left a month later to work for an energy company in Houston. Before I left, she revealed to me that she didn't believe in God. I was ashamed of myself, was I that far from a Christian that I make a girl my girlfriend and not even check to see if she is a Christian?!? I immediately knew I would not be marrying her and broke up with her a month later when I couldn't handle the huge difference in our lives. I happened to be living with another intern that summer whom I did not know and was also working at the same company. His name is Jarrod.
Jarrod is a believer and was a very cool guy to hang out with. He was not influenced by my desire to go out and party and I did not go out that summer very much because of that. Some of that was due to us working on the weekends and I was afraid something might happen that jeopardized my internship. Instead we would go fishing and do things of that nature. He also convinced me to start going to church. I was growing closer to God here in Houston and I was enjoying it. Jarrod also gave me a book, "Wild at Heart" which I read and responded very well to. It got me pumped up for Jesus because I strive to be a manly man and in his book he identifies how men of the faith should act. As a side note I wish I could be a man like John Wayne or William Wallace from Braveheart. Those are the types of men I pretended to be as a child. The book was very eye opening to a guy who only heard of Jesus as the guy that loved everyone and liked holding little kids.
When the summer ended I returned to Texas Tech for my senior year. I moved back into the same house with the same roommates and hung out with the same guys. Guess what happened, I fell right back into the same road I was traveling down before. I felt like that was all that I could do! It's what everyone else I knew was doing. But I knew it was wrong and I decided I would do both. I'll party but I'll also worship the Lord. So that's what I did. I went to a men and women's Bible study on Wednesdays and on Thursday I worshipped with Cru. I took the M:29 class with Cru and also had the opportunity to meet with an older guy as a mentor type figure for my last year at Tech. But the weekends didn't change. I did the same things that I had done the previous 3 years and I thought it was okay. I was hedging my fear of missing out by trying everything.
I ended up graduating from Texas Tech in May of 2014 not being very much different from the person I was when I started at Tech. My heart was still chasing my own desires but I knew there was something more. I moved in with Jarrod as we started our jobs in Houston. We started to go to church together at a nondenominational church. It was called Bayou City Fellowship.  It was a smaller, new and young church that I really liked. It had worship services but did not have Sunday school classes and Jarrod and I made a habit of just going to service and then going home each week. What I wanted was a community in Houston and I wanted that community to be a fellowship of believers. I decided to start searching for other churches and began attending St. Luke's United Methodist church. They were the same denomination as the church I grew up in and the same format. I was able to go to Sunday school and then worship. I attended that church for a few reasons. None of which seemed to be the right ones. The teachers of the class, who were my age, would read lessons they probably got off the internet and read 15 minutes before class. I wasn't learning. During my attendance at St. Luke's I knew some other people that lived in Houston and on two separate occasions I was told I should check out Houston's First Baptist church.
Now let's backtrack a little bit. During the time I was attending Bayou City Fellowship and St. Luke's I was also hanging out with the only people I knew in Houston, my party friends from Texas Tech. So Friday and Saturday I would go out and then go to church on Sunday mornings. It worked for the time. This is what happened from June of 2014 to June of 2015.
In June of 2015, I had another moment in my life where I made a decision. I had many things going on that just broke me down. I was working long hours at my job and placed my security in the time I spent at work. I was in a sexually immoral relationship with a girl that was only held together by our physical connection. And the only friends I had were the ones I partied with on the weekends. I was living a life that did not truly satisfy the void in my heart and I finally acknowledged it to God. I was tired of pursuing things that didn’t matter. I knew the only way something would change would be for me to stand up in my passiveness. I knew God was reaching out to me.
I asked Jesus to come into my life  and I finally grasped the courage I needed to stop choosing a life that had no meaning. I made a decision in that summer of 2015 that I was not going to let the world influence my choices. Instead I was going to rely on God to watch over me. Every time I made a life altering decision, I had chosen what my flesh wanted. Time and time again I was giving into what the world wanted me to be. I was done with the old me and I decided to give my heart to Christ and pursue him. I stopped the partying and the other sin natures that I was once so eager to chase and I replaced it with prayer, reading my bible, and begin the search again for a Godly community.
I decided to try out Houston's First and showed up one Sunday in June to the men's Bible study "Just for Men" because it would be a good place to begin a search for community. I was the first one there and different men began to come in. The average age was 40-50 until a younger man walked in, it was one of the friends who recommended Houston's First! After the Life Bible Study ended he told me that next week I should try a class called "1:14" which was short for John 1:14. I attended the next week and have not stopped attending since.
There is another way to live life and it will make all the difference.

Sunday, August 9, 2015

21st Century Conformity


Con-form-i-ty:
-behavior in accordance with socially accepted conventions or standards.

I'm okay with conformity to a degree. You see, I wish I was a cowboy. A real one. A man like John Wayne; cattle driving, six shooter shooting, 10 foot tall kind of man. I dress like 21st cowboy and I try to look and live like the real ones. Although, I do put a twist to it. I also like to dress like the typical fraternity man. I wear shoes manufactured in America, I wear shirts with collared, my jeans are wranglers, and my favorite pair of boots are Ariats. There's a lot of guys that wear the same style of clothes as me. I don’t do it because that's the way everyone else dresses, well, maybe when I was 18. But now I wear that style because it is reserved, presentable, and hell the ladies like it.

That kind of conformity is okay with me.  The way someone dresses doesn't dictate who they are. I know I am completely different than the other types of guys that dress just like that. You see, it's our minds and what we choose to believe that makes people different. Not our clothes, the car we drive, or what type of job we have. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. That means you can take any issue, any religion, or political platform and study them. You can formulate your own idea of whether it is true and right or wrong. You have the freedom to decide what you will support and what you won't.

I'm not okay with the type of conformists that see something on social media and automatically believe that's how something should be; or how something happened. Look at what you're seeing and question it. Then make your own opinion. 

The conformity I see today among young adults is quite different. Our world has shoved down our throats that in order to be accepted in society you must dress alike, think alike, and act alike. Identical people with different faces is the fashion today. This causes a big issue because most people today have accepted that ideal. Now, when society tells you their point of view you are most likely going to accept it. Do you even question it? How many people do you think see a controversial issue like Planned Parenthood selling the fetuses extracted from pregnant women?  Unless you live under a rock you have heard about it. Do you believe it? Why? And then you read in the newspaper that Planned Parenthood received taxpayer money from the government. The news stations are now insinuating that you, the taxpayer, are now aiding a baby killing company in their goal to rid the world of unwanted children. This is sick! But is it true. I guarantee a majority of the people watching these stations immediately believed that all of this has been happening. But why? Because it's a news station? How often are they caught lying? How many of you, instead of just accepting what you heard, actually googled Planned Parenthood's financials and confirmed they do receive money from the government? And then researched if Planned Parenthood was in fact selling fetuses and parts of babies they extracted from women? This issue is currently in the controversial stage. An independent investigation conducted by reporters brought this issue to the public. There has not been a confirmation that Planned Parenthood in fact took taxpayer money to fund extracting babies from mothers and then turned around and sold it to other companies. I am sure in due time this will be confirmed because those people are sick (my opinion). I bet less than 10% of the people that saw these headlines did any of their own research. Instead they probable just believed it! This is maddening.  

If you don't believe me. Why do all of your friends care about Cecil the lion now? Because the media told them it mattered. Why didn’t they care before? People have been hunting animals in Africa for hundreds of years! The man went on a paid hunt with a guide. Do you know how many animals are illegally poached in Africa every by people in Africa?! Go attack them.

If a news station went on air today and said "God is not real. We went outside and asked him to smite us and it didn't happen." Then they say asked a scientist if God was real and says, "God cannot be real because everything can be explained by science. Therefore, the news station states "God is not real." I wonder how many people would probable say, "okay maybe he isn't real."

Don't let this world control how you think. Don't be told what to believe and how you should treat it. Go out and do your research. Find out why something happened. Establish an opinion based on facts you found. Make your own choices and believe what you choose.